A lot of husbands walk into labor with the best intentions.

They want to help.
They want to support you.
They want to be involved.

But when labor actually starts, he can look more like a deer in the headlights feeling woefully unprepared. He’s standing in the corner not sure what to do… asking, “What do you need?”over and over.

He may feeling helpless or try something once and then give up because it didn’t seem to work.

And in that moment, it can feel frustrating for both of you.

You’re in the middle of something intense, trying to stay focused and ride each contraction… and he’s looking to you for direction. Which, let’s be honest, is the last thing you want to be responsible for in labor.

You don’t want to coach your husband through how to support you.
You want to be supported.

And he doesn’t want to feel like he’s getting it wrong.
He just wants to actually help in a way that makes a difference.

The gap described here isn’t intention but rather execution.

Because support in labor is not always instinctive, especially for men.

Now picture this instead…